The bond with the children comes from a relationship with the parents based on love and respect: connecting with them creates the conditions for a happy family.
The relationship with children is a fundamental aspect of the education that parents want to impart. It is very important, in fact, to establish a solid bond and complicity that can serve the children themselves to grow with the awareness of having in the father and mother a support and comfort that will never fail. Usually the strongest bond that is created naturally is that between mothers and sons, but also the figure of the father plays an essential role. The relationship with the children must be based on love and mutual respect: in this way a solid and coherent education can be developed.
There must be communication and connection between parents and children, not just correction: in this way the foundations are laid for building a happy family. This is not an easy path. Sometimes the relationship with the children can break down because of several factors: the environment, the personality that is beginning to develop and the excessive apprehension of the parents. In fact, it may happen that some parents are afraid of the idea of not being able to establish this complicity with their children and then risk adopting attitudes that even worsen their bond.
The relationship with children must be based on listening. In this way, a real connection is created. You don’t just communicate in one direction: you talk and then you listen. It is a relationship that must be bi-directional, the information must be exchanged on both sides. If your children do not listen to you, perhaps it is because you do not listen to them or because you have not given them the space they need to express themselves as they wanted. After listening to your children, however, you must also remember what they have said, make them feel important to you and give weight to their thoughts and opinions.
Then learn to share your passions with your children. Allow them to enter your space and dedicate time to it: the moment will come when they will also claim their space and it is important that there are moments of sincere sharing. If you can’t find common ground together, they’ll go looking for it elsewhere. Finally, a word of advice: do not use guilt to influence the behavior of children. In this way your relationship would not be authentic and would still be the result of a situation of discomfort. Being a parent is not easy, but if you create the conditions for a sincere bond, the bond that there is in a family between mother, father and children will last forever and will be wonderful.